Your Significant Other and Your Enlightenment Journey

One question that I am frequently asked by students is about their significant other, spouse or partner and moving forward on the path of enlightened living. Wondering if they can move forward with their healing and learning if their spouse does not is a question that always has fear attached to it.  Related to this, I’m also often asked if a person can date someone who is not on the spiritual path.

Whenever this question comes up, I flash back to a time in my life around 12 years ago where I struggled with this question in my own relationship.  I was experiencing a time of rapid expansion and moving from fifth to six dimensional consciousness and felt like my whole life was being shaken up. (Now I know that the experience of ‘the rug being pulled out from under you’ actually heralds a time of great opening and learning). My panic at that time was being with my husband for 12 years, with two young children and believing that for me to be who I really am that he needed to go there with me. Holding onto this created sleepless nights for me, incredible stress and many, many tears.

I know that some divine intervention planted the idea in my (often stubborn) head, to stop having this belief and its subsequent thoughts and to focus on what works in my relationship with him. Though I struggled with this, I pushed myself to be vigilant about my thoughts and saw our life with new eyes. In a very miraculous way, I realized that he was put on my path not to take the same journey, but rather to help ground me on the earth. I also began to see that in his own way he was, and is, a wizard each and every day. He really does not have to learn what I learn or do what I do. There were and are times, where ‘I wish’ we both speak this same language, yet unwaveringly know that for a much higher purpose that this is the relationship I am meant to be.

Over the past 12 years, I’ve addressed this question of needing your partner to be on the same spiritual path innumerable times in groups and with individuals. Here is a set of guidelines have developed to assist you (or a friend) pondering this in your own life:

1.       No one can be on an active seeking path 100% of the time. Our bodies, and particularly our endocrine system, are not built for it. Does your significant other provide you with grounding, nurturing, laughter, activity and a break from the intensity at this journey can often be?

 

2.       Search yourself, and ask from your heart (not your mind) how important it is for you that your partner be on the active spiritual path?

 

3.       Does your significant other support you in your soul expansion, even if they are not actively engaged in the process themselves? Know that support can have many different faces, from being very clear and direct (e.g., taking the children to the park so you can meditate), to being very subtle (e.g.  turning down the volume so you can read).

 

4.       If you have a significant other that demeans or shames or judges you personally on your soul path on a regular basis, this is indicative of a serious relationship issue and needs to be addressed.

 

5.       If this shaming or judging occurs rarely, it may simply be your partner’s inability to ask you about your journey, or their reaction to your process of healing. Whenever you heal an aspect of yourself, or align with a higher vibration, it shifts the balance of your relationship. This does not mean that you should ignore it, but address it in a responsive way with love and compassion - while not allowing their fear to infiltrate you.

 

6.       Is there anything else in your relationship that is toxic or blocks you being in an enlightened life space? This can include anything that undermines the strength of your lower three chakras – the root of foundation in your life, your creative expression or intuitive side or your sense of being in your power and meeting the requirements of life. Avoid sticking your head in the sand, and respond with communication and action to shift and heal what else may be getting in the way for you.

Please feel free to pass the link to this blog on to others – my sense is that this information will help many with their struggle with their most personal, earthly relationship while being on the path of enlightened living. (By the way, we will be celebrating our 25th anniversary next October and laugh every day).

~ Love and Light, Kathy

 

Who'll Stop the Rain?

On Saturday, October 19^th, I was thrilled to attend the wedding of one of my Fifth Dimensional Consciousness students. She is an amazing energy worker with a profound connection with nature and beautiful from the inside-out. The location was a rural conference centre on the outskirts of Ottawa called Strathmere,  where I had spoken on several occasions. From these experiences, I knew how the earth energies came together in a very powerful way at Strathmere (though it is not promoted as such).

Ottawa, Canada is the coldest capital city in the world. Holding an outdoor wedding service on the third weekend of October can have its challenges. During the afternoon in my west end neighbourhood, the skies opened up and fall thunderstorm boomed. I immediately moved to action, sending energy, light and pure intention to the unwavering belief that it was not going to rain on their wedding. Arriving at the center, the rain began to fall and the sky was quite ominous, becoming blacker by the minute.

As we sat outside waiting for the service to begin, my intention still remained that it would not rain for them today. I kept telling that to my husband, who had gone to the car for an umbrella. Around me, people complained about the cold, the rain and having to be outside. The more I heard complaints, the further I pulled into my heart center, scanning my energy field to ensure that I was not connected to any negativity. Through connecting with my solar plexus, I felt very rock-solid core strength within myself, and called on nature around me to strengthen the resolve and intention that it was not going to rain today.

Looking to the to the clouds, they continued to darkened and I could hear my left-brain voice telling me that I was crazy and it was not going to help. I used my intention to override that voice, while calling upon Ascended Masters to help. Activating the symbols from Fifth Dimensional Consciousness program and beginning to ‘two- point’ the sky, as learned through Matrix Energetics, moved my intention further into action. So as things appeared bleak, I held my resolve and sensed that Saint Germain was assisting.

My awareness held deep in this intention and I totally believed that another reality was ‘for the highest good’. I was aware that people began to look to the sky. The black clouds shifted direction, the winds calmed and the rain stopped. It actually became slightly warmer. A couple of minutes later, the beautiful service amongst the trees and the fall leaves began, and the weather remained steady.

The bottom-line is that I did not change the weather. I simply held, with all the strength, ability and knowledge available to me, the belief that an alternative reality of a much higher vibration was present. Through my heart and buoyed by my power centre (solar plexus), I accessed the realm of all possibility and was the conduit for a better one showing up!

 

Additional exercise: Print out this blog, and underline everything you find everything that I used to enable the new reality. You'll find a mini-course on manifesting!

 ~ Love and Light, Kathy

 

 

 

 

How to Treat Emotional Trauma and Crisis with Reiki

Sharing with you  the optimal way to give a treatment to someone who has experienced a recent shock, trauma or tragedy is what I am guided to give you now. Here in Ottawa, Canada, we experienced an event this week where a public transit bus collided with a train, leaving six dead and dozens of others injured – as well as the impact on the families and the emergency and medical personnel who assisted with this accident.

When someone experiences a major trauma or event in their life, it impacts their physical, mental, emotional and spiritual self.  As a Reiki Master or Practitioner, you will be assisting people who come to you with post-traumatic experiences, both fresh and from the past. The energy of a crisis is what most often leads people to seek assistance from others. Often is the case that the crisis or trauma leaves a person feeling so exposed and anxious that they become very open to energy work. In working with someone in crisis, you’ll find that there are often long-term issues underlying the immediate symptoms that they are presenting.

In working with people in crisis for nearly 30 years, I’ve developed an approach that works exceptionally well in assisting them in moving out of the shock of the crisis and regaining a sense of safety and calm. As the treatment provider, there are two key elements for you to know:

A) You cannot take anyone, anywhere that you are not yourself. That means if you are reeling from the crisis, feeling agitated or anxious, it’s essential to heal and nurture yourself first. Before the session, you will need time to centre and ground yourself to Mother Earth (roots moving out of the bottom of your feet work very well). After the session, you will need time and space to ‘debrief’ yourself. This means scanning your whole being, and releasing to the Earth any and all fear or trauma that you may have inadvertently picked up during the session.

B)If you have not been trained as a psychotherapist, then you are not one. I know that statement may seem harsh, yet it is really common for energy work practitioners to overstep their skill set, especially when someone is scared and in crisis. You’re profoundly important job for this person is to get them back in their bodies, reduce their fear and allow Reiki to nurture them and returned to them a sense of safety. Counseling people who have experienced trauma is very complex and it is easy to reinforce the trauma rather than be a catalyst to relieve it.

Here are the steps I use with rapid results for assisting someone in crisis. The intention of this type of treatment is not to expand them spiritually through working with the higher chakras, rather it is to activate and strengthen the lower three chakras. As with any treatment, you will be called to work in different areas of the body, though avoid the head. A person in crisis often has an overstimulated Third Eye area, and additional energy to the area is detrimental. If you are called to work around the head, e.g. that they have a headache, and then do so with the hands off the body at least 6 inches away. Use symbols as you would in any treatment.

 1) Setting up the room: have the person take off all crystals they may be wearing. Remove all high vibrational crystals from the area, especially around their head. If you are drawn to keep any in the room - which may be the case with Selenite - keep it behind or near you. It is most effective to only use crystals on the lower three chakras and at the knees and feet. Jasper, Carnelian and Calcite can be used in any of these areas. Using Kyanite for a posttraumatic treatment is highly recommended, especially when placing it on or between the knees.

 Ensure that the music you use is very calming, avoiding music with crystal bowls, high octave chanting or loud sounds. Avoid strong scent in the room, unless you are familiar with aromatherapy.

2) If you work hands-on, ask the person if they are comfortable with touch as many people who have experienced trauma are hypersensitive. Give them permission to tell you during the session if they become so. Have extra blankets available, and let them know that they may feel cold or shaky during the session and they should advise you when this occurs. Be conscious during the session of your connection to the Earth at all times.

3) Begin with your hands about 6 inches away from the bottom of their feet. Place Usui symbols there, plus any advanced healing symbols you may know (if you have taken the Higher Degrees of Reiki with me, use the symbols for healing and connection to the Earth). Next, place your hands on the top of their feet, having the client take several deep breaths and fully releasing the air from their lungs. Notice the rhythm of your breath, and breathe deeply and slowly as the person will begin to mimic your breathing.

4) Move up to their Third Chakra area which is the access area for the kidneys and adrenal glands. Focus your intention on bringing harmony and balance to the adrenal glands. When a person is in crisis or long-term stress, the adrenals become too overstimulated and unable to rest. Remain here for at least 5 to 10 minutes.

5) Move next to the Root Chakra area, placing one hand on each side of their body. People often experience a split or fracture in the energy of the root chakra, following a trauma. Visualize bringing all parts of the root chakra to one powerful whole with it regaining its optimal circular motion and colour. Ensure that you are comfortable as this usually takes 5 to 10 minutes, and you know that you are complete. As you will feel the shift in their body and yours.

6) Next, move to the knees, working with one knee at a time, placing one hand above and one hand on the back of the knee. Behind the knee is a powerful deep chakra that relate to the ability to move forward, as people in trauma are often very stuck. Each knee will take 3 to 5 minutes, and then moved to having one hand on the top of each knee, with your intention that they find balance and regain their ability to work together.

7)Moved to the Heart Chakra. Place your hands. 2 to 5 inches above the heart, thinking of the colors pink and green and focus on filling them with the great love that comes through Reiki. Remain here for at least five minutes, knowing that your client may weep at this part of the session.

8) To complete this session, you return to the feet, working with them individually with one hand on the top and one on the bottom for at least 3 to 5 minutes per foot. Your intention is to focus on them being very grounded and nurtured as they move forward from this point in time. You may want to add the Distance Symbol so that the Reiki will continue to work for some time in the future. Finish with balancing both feet and giving a prayer of thanks.

~ Love and Light, Kathy

Reiki to Diffuse the Power of Pain

It sure feels good to have the energy, the focus in the desire to be writing again. Four weeks ago I surrendered to the need for extensive shoulder surgery-the result of an injury incurred caring for my mother, repetitive strain from wreaking treatments and from a fall while hiking on an icy path. Though one’s mind could go on and on trying to figure out the higher meaning for all of this, I realized that it was simply one of those things that happen in life. Of course, there are always lessons and many of mine came through surrendering to the process.

One of the greatest ‘aha moments’ that I’ve experienced through this is that of how all powerful that pain tries to be. After spending 20 years teaching Reiki and other advanced energy work and assisting people with pain, I thought I knew a lot about it. Yet, going through the greatest physical pain of my life (and have given birth twice), provided me with so many insights that I’ll be sharing with you in my next few blogs.

Here are three things I’d like to share with you today:

1) Physical pain is one of the strongest forces on the planet that can impact spiritual growth. For those of you who work with archetypes, you know that they embody a group of characteristics that control behavior usually with the intention to keep a person separate from their core self. Pain is an archetype, and one that will bring the worst out in people. (I believe that I have stayed in my heart center fairly well, though my family will say there were times when a very childlike part of me was in charge).

2) My experience deeply reminded me how powerful Reiki is as a warrior in the face of physical pain. At those times when I could not do Reiki myself, I could feel the force of the Reiki being sent to me by others. At those times when I felt the most helpless, the distance Reiki being sent, allowed me to be calm, feeling nurtured and wrapped in a blanket of love. Thank you all.

3) As healing occurred, I began to actively support my body and address the pain through treatments. Doing this reminded me of how empowering Reiki is, keeping me out of the void of feeling like a victim that I could feel calling at times. I knew that if I went into victims thinking, the pain would be victorious.

My suggestion to you today, is to send distance healing to someone that you know who is in pain. Especially, those people in your life who may be in chronic pain. It is really easy for us as human beings to minimize their experience as we get used to them being that way. And if you have any kind of chronic pain, send Reiki to the root cause within yourself without needing to figure out the source. My next blog will speak further on self-healing.

 

~ Love and Light, Kathy

The Reality of Energy Stealers

Since the beginning of this month, there has been an underlying current of sabotaging energy being experienced by Lightworkers. You may have experienced it on a physical, mental, emotional or spiritual level - and many people are experiencing it related to work. (Even if you are on vacation, you may have sense of 'something is up' or an inability to relax and let go).

Know that it is not your fault - as sensitive beings, we Lightworkers easily move to self-blame. This is an external, global pressure trying to disempower our knowing and abilities. Use all the tools and techniques you have to 1) ground your energy to the earth, while visualizing connection to rock within the earth, 2) shield your physical being, and 3) make choices not to place yourself in toxic or overwhelming situations.

With this latter point - toxic environments that you can choose not to be part of - be very mindful of the choices that you make while on the internet. At its highest vibration, the internet has been a profound tool for connecting our energies, for new learning and to find the 'soul food' that you require. At its lower vibrations, it can leach your energy slowly through unfocused surfing, excessive game playing, or searching for and connecting with people on Facebook who no longer serve your energy. The internet can leach your energy quickly as well, including energy stealers disguised as spiritual gurus.

Discernment is the key when on the internet. If something does not feel right, don't go there. If you feel yourself being lost in a site or in certain teachings, step away until you sense whether it really is for your highest good. Many Lightworkers are losing their power through their addiction to the internet - if you have an addictive nature (especially from a family of origin with addictions) this is especially important for you.

Here are some indicators for Advanced Lightworkers that somehow your energy is being compromised if:

1) You are finding that for 2-3 months your energy has been like a roller-coaster. (When you go through periods of growth and activation of higher vibration within, you can experience this effect and 2 to 3 weeks at the most).

2) You are finding it is challenging to move back to your heart centre at any time, but especially when under stress.

3) You you are not experiencing more Joy in your life overall over the past 2 to 3 months.

As my ego struggles to give you a simple answer to this, I hear " There is only Self-Love". Meditations and healing where you focus on yourself, sending self-love to your core is essential. If emotion arises, do not be anxious about it. Allow it to move through you - it is simply old, stored energy that you no longer require and is getting in the way of strength and joy. Self-love is the foundation for your being, the source of your power and your link to the Universe. To assist yourself and others, you can add this prayer to your daily practice:

"My Guardians and Guardians of those whom I love,
Shield us from psychic attack and those who steal energy".

~ Love and Light, Kathy

Manifesting in Las Vegas?

As a veteran Lightworker (with both scars and medals to prove it), my intention as always been to fully enjoy all the Dimensions that we are able to move through and revel in. This includes the 3rd Dimension. When writing down my intentions for 2013, I included allowing my soul to manifest optimal and fun travelling experiences this year. Though Las Vegas was not on my personal radar, a trip connected with my husband's work appeared and fit for both of us to attend. At first, my Lightworker mind questioned the trip, yet quickly surrendered to trusting that my soul had set this up.

Approaching this trip, I knew that going to 'sin city' and its extreme energy could be a challenge for my energy to withstand. Also knowing that the 'thief archetype' is thriving there (the whole place is set up to remove as much energy/money from a visitor as possible), I knew I needed to prepare. Undaunted, I energetically prepared myself with the intention to live from my heart chakra continually, asking Guidance to be with me at all times AND to attract joy-based experiences and people. Based on my intentions, here are some synchronistic experiences that spelled FUN.

One of my Earth Angels, my aunt Gayle, just 'happened to be in Las Vegas' with her daughter Lou the exact same week. In my intentions this year, I also requested the opportunity to spend time with those I love who do not live nearby.

On a practical level, there was a Whole Foods store one bus stop away from our hotel (with being gluten free for over 30 years, this was essential). Upon our arrival at the hotel, I requested a fridge for our room and was quoted $39 per night. While listening to this, I clearly directed my Guides to make it happen for free. In the next breath, the clerk said 'Ok, I'll tell them you need it for medicine'. Bingo.

Upon arriving at our hotel, I kept feeling the presence of crystalline energy. Wondering if someone left one in our room, I looked around but none were there. Two days later, I needed to go to a breakfast in one of the other towers of our hotel, connected by an underground passage to ours. Turning a corner, I noticed an alcove with a display case in each corner holding two of the biggest crystals I have ever seen! Both were quartz from Mt. Ida, Arkansas and held every type of inclusion or rainbow (energy centres) you could imagine! When I laughed out loud, I did get a few weird looks, but I know that you will appreciate it!



I continually met people from all over the world who were visiting for many different reasons. This lead to many spiritual conversations, and a real experience 'of the oneness of all'.

We had purchased tickets for the Cirque du Soleil show, 'O', before our trip, though energetically never felt really connected to the experience. On the evening of the show, 40 minutes after show time it was cancelled due to a technical glitch. Though the others in our group were very disappointed, I felt really O.K. and neutral with a sense that something better will occur.

Then, we were able to get discount tickets for another Cirque show, Ka, This word actually means fire and energetic movement, reflective of our own personal Ka and that of the world as a whole. As soon as I walked in to the theatre, had an overwhelming sense of needing to be here. While sitting in the 6th row of this colourful and active production, I fought sleep. Each time my eyes briefly closed, I felt surrounded by energy and light and left the theatre with a huge sense of expansion that remains.

I could go on for quite a while about the experiences on this trip. Here are some tips for manifesting that came through clearly:

• Put your soul in charge of manifesting and trust the results. Know that as a Lightworker, that there always is a higher purpose to wherever you find yourself!

• Give yourself permission to have over-the-top fun - we are far too serious on this journey.

• Stay in your heart and ask your Guidance to help you do so. When you stay in your heart, you 1)attract that which is for your highest good, 2)repel what is not, and 3)be able to hear the advice of your 'higher self' and your Guides.

• Don't waste time with disappointment or frustration - feel it and let it going with the belief that something better is in the works!

• Get out of your comfort zone - things you would never think possible are waiting there for you.

So, for me, what happened in Vegas gladly came home!

~  Love and Light, Kathy

Manifesting Dr. Who

My 19 year old daughter and I felt compelled for us to take a trip that would give us lifelong memories. Focusing on Ireland and the UK, I asked where she would like to go, she emphatically replied, “Cardiff, Wales!” Her reason: the BBC films ‘Dr. Who’ there.   Now, this 40 year old British science fiction T.V. series is a favorite of our family. My husband has watched it since its inception and our daughter, Tegan, was named after a character on the show.

Prior to our departure, my daughter did her homework. She searched high and low on the internet for locations and sites for filming and any connections that she could make to actually see the show being filmed. She was confident and diligent with her research and intention, though did not have much to go on when we left home.

Upon arriving Cardiff, I napped and she went out to explore local comic book store. With Dr. Who books in hand, she met two young students who remarked on her interest. One of them, a real Dr. Who fan, provided her with a walking tour of filming locations in downtown. It also seems that this person was part of an elite group who kept apprised when and where filming was happening!

So I found myself at 6:30 PM in the cold rain, hopping on a train, to a little town called Caerphilly. This quaint town appeared quite deserted upon our arrival. When we finally found someone and asked “Have you seen any filming around here?” He said, “At the Castle”. My daughter and I looked at each other and said, “Castle?” Walking in the direction where he pointed, we turned a corner and were surprised by a huge medieval castle, complete with a moat, right in front of us. We didn’t see any filming trucks though did find some cable running into the Castle from a power box, giving us a clue that they may be returning.  Though it was two hours after closing, the curator of the museum came out and said that he was working late and that they would be back in the morning to finish. Undaunted, we knew we would return the next day.

Arriving the next morning at 9:30, still in the rain, we purchased an admission to the Castle and tried not to look like stalkers. After about 90 minutes, my intuition directed us to stand in one particular spot. Within five minutes, we looked down the hill and there through a huge stone arch walked Matt Smith, the actor who plays Dr. Who in full attire and directly behind him was Karen Gillan, who plays his 'companion', Amy Pond. See the photos below that will tell you how thrilled my daughter was to manifest Dr. Who!

While reflecting on our experience, I saw how brilliantly my daughter had manifested her dreams. Here are some of the highlights of what she did that can help you as well to bring your most precious desires to fruition:

1) Dream big.

2) Pursue your quest with joy and expectancy.

3) Do your homework.

4) Develop a plan and move to action.

5) Believe that it can occur.

6) Watch for synchronicity; trust your intuition and following it.

7) Never allow magical thinking (believing that something will magically occur to make it happen) to dominate your intention.

8) Lead with the energy of attraction rather than the energy of pursuit. The latter contain fear elements and will actually push your goal away.

9) Carefully choose with whom you share your plan. Make sure that the person is someone who approaches life with the belief of abundance rather than scarcity, a person who strives to live a fearless life, and who really has your best interest at heart.

10). Have fun! Avoid becoming overly serious when manifesting. Be in the frequency of joy, allowing worry and ‘expectation of outcome’ to fall away. Have an adventure!

~ Love and Light, Kathy